The words you use can transform your life!
Are you ready for this? This is powerful stuff I'm about to lay down so make sure you got the kids occupied elsewhere and they're not creating all sorts of distractions with snotty noses, art projects, and endless food demands. This is serious stuff and it's going to change how you talk to yourself, for-ev-vah!
I want you, going forward, to be as real as you can with yourself. When the time comes to get something done, to make a change and to follow through, I want you to listen very closely to how you speak. When you totally decide to give it your all—and you know those moments, you're inspired, you're pumped, you're totally enthusiastic and you can take on the world—I want you to pay attention to what you say. Not right away, but about a week, maybe two weeks later. Notice what's happening. Maybe your enthusiasm is waning a bit. You're no longer as pumped or psyched to get on with crushing your goals. A little word starts creeping in and taking over. All of a sudden you start saying "I can’t". You're beginning to "I can't" everything for one reason or another. You feel me?
I can’t exercise today, I can’t make the time.
I can’t make dinner so let’s just order out.
I can’t plan my meals ahead of time, it’s proving to be too difficult.
The overwhelm of following through is beginning to take hold. It’s beginning to become too much. You’re starting to crack.
Ok, deep breaths, In and out. Don’t let the overwhelm paralyze you. Don’t let it pull you back down. Now is the time to dig your heels further into the ground, and re-commit to your goals. This is the point you begin to change your speak.
What I mean is, I want you, from this point on, to rephrase your sentences. Instead of starting out by saying “I can’t…” which is defeatist, and undermining, I want you to replace that with “I won’t…”
So now instead of saying, "I can't work out today, I simply can't make the time", you say, "I won't work out today, I simply won't make the time."
That one word change puts the onus exactly where it needs to be, right on YOU!
Now I'm not trying to be mean (and you may have not seen that word swap coming, I’m thinking you were more like oh I know where she’s going, I need to be less critical of myself, I need to start saying I Love Me more! Ha! Not today girl!). I'm trying to get real and allow you to own your sh*t so you can realize that maybe the true reason why things aren't happening the way you wanted or expected them to is because of the words you're using.
I try to eat healthy but I just can't resist all those goodies on the buffet table.
I try to eat healthy but I just won't resist all those goodies on the buffet table.
Pretty powerful stuff if you ask me. I've done this with a few things in my life and it really helps change my perspective and my approach to accomplishing goals.
Now I know what you're thinking... you're thinking Really? This is going to change my world?
All I can say is, fkn-A it is! Try it for yourself and see. Words are power. Remember that. They can lift you up or they can literally knock you off your feet. When you begin to take ownership for what’s going on in your world and stop making excuses, then you can begin to really make the changes that you want to see happen.
Now I have to admit, this idea didn't come from me, I scooped up this little nugget of wisdom from someone you may all know, Marie Forleo. She is one smart chickedy and I respect her and her philosophy so much that I highly recommend you all going to check out her TV show, Marie TV. She is one savvy girl!
So tell me, will you try this out? Will you find out if it's helpful for you? If so, please let me know in the comments below, I'd love to hear from you!