3 Steps to Rid Negativity and Start Believing in Yourself

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You know the old Louie Armstrong song, Noooooobuuuuudy knows the trouble I've seen. Noooooobuuuuudy knows my soooorrroooww. Ringing a bell? (Spaceballs anyone?!)

Ok, age aside (I'm feeling old) that song is a classic and at one point (or many) I'm sure we've all thrown a fab pity party centered around that exact theme. We're feeling low, knee deep in troubled waters, feeling under-appreciated and overwhelmed (hallooooooo motherhood, I'm talking to you!), and it's easy to let those feelings take over, which in turn cues that little voice in our heads that if left to their own devices can easily turn into a booming death metal song you can't get out of head! (WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU, DUN DUN DUN, GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER, DUN DUN DUN, YOU'RE NOT GOOD ENOUGH, DUN DUN DUN.... or something like that. Heh.)

Whatever the tune that plays in your mind, you do realize that those thoughts are there to undermine you, right? And you do realize that it's only your brain doing the job it was intended to do, right? When things get to be a bit too much, or we're feeling down and out about our situations, the human brain is designed to focus on what's going wrong in our lives and to basically freak out about it. It's been working that way for millions of years (so as to avoid death by lion feasting!), and although it would be a welcome change if it could slightly evolve so that we're all filled with joy and rapture all the time instead of shifting toward the negative, it did at one point serve a purpose. Now, however, these thoughts we have are actually helping to create depression, anxiety, high blood pressure, and so much more. 

That's why it's so important to have a strategy when you're feeling low because it's so easy to stay there and wallow in it. But honey, life keeps moving and if you spend too much time wallowing in your "comfort zone", (because let's be honest, even though it doesn't make you feel good, there is some sort of pleasure you get from remaining there... if it didn't, you'd get out of there ASAP!), you're gonna miss a whole big part of life. For example, all the good parts!

Let's get strategizing then so we can get to the good parts of living!

Here's what I've started doing when I'm feeling low and so far it's been helping me get out of some major funks. But it's a work in progress and just when you think you have it all figured out, you fall prey. So be diligent and practice these steps often so they become second nature to you.

1. Recognize your strengths. Because baby you've got them! You have a gift that only you have and you need to know what that gift is. And it could be many! Think of what you're good at and write it down. Make a list. Write it out and place it where you'll see it always! You're special and you have something that no one else in this whole wide world has, and you need to know it, celebrate it, and cultivate it. Are you good at sorting stuff? Talking to strangers? Creating time-saving short-cuts? Whatever it is, no matter how small you think it is, it's something unique to you and you need to understand it and own it. Even better, ask your close friends and family what they think your strengths are, I bet you'll be surprised (happily!) at what they have to say. 

2. Understand your triggers. What thought, or action sets in motion the feelings of inadequacy, failure, or anxiety? What causes you not to believe in yourself? Is it a person, an activity, a recurring thought? How can you change your circumstances so you can avoid or lessen the strength of that trigger?

For me, it's my lack to plan out my days, which inevitably leave me feeling like I've accomplished nothing with the time I had for the day. Something simple like that has the ability to knock the wind right out of my sails. Once I realized that it became simple to come up with a solution. Now I spend 15 - 20 minutes every morning after the kids have been dropped focusing on what I want to accomplish along with what needs I have to fulfill (like going to the grocery store, planning play dates and returning library books - things that easily fall by the wayside.) Once I learned that this little practice turned around those feelings of not being able to get it all done, I actually felt accomplished at the end of the day... so much better than feeling defeated!

3. Always be kind to yourself. Ditch the negative talk! It serves absolutely no purpose but to bring you down. And the more you do it, the more your brain and body begin to fall into line and believe it even more. I tell my son when he says something negative about himself or even his little brother, that what he says will go up to the stars who hear him and send the message back down to him even stronger so that everyone around him will begin to believe it. (That's the best way I can describe the energy of the Universe to him, and he gets it and stops the pattern right then and there. Usually!)

If you keep telling yourself that you're not worthy, that you don't believe in your abilities or that things can't get better, what do you think is going to happen? Joy isn't going to come along unexpectedly and smother you. No way. Joy sees your dark cloud and understands there is no room for it there.

When you notice the negativity starting to come in, stop it in its tracks by saying one nice thing about yourself. And then put a big fat smile on your face even if it's killing you inside to do it! It will change the moment and then you can change the thought.

3a. Get Inspired! (This was a last minute add-on but I was feeling it so strongly I had to share!) Having something to work towards, something that gets your juices flowing will get you out of your funk fo' sure! Get selfish and take time to pursue your passions, even if it's for 30 minutes a day. What would you want to do if you could do ANYTHING in the world? Be a savvy day-trader? Know three languages? Learn how to make a mean Soupe à L'oignon? Whatever it is, becoming inspired creates a fire inside that just won't die. It keeps you young, and motivated, and can open up new worlds. Challenge yourself to get inspired and you'll soon forget you're in a funk!

I believe in these steps so much so that I created a pretty little worksheet for you to print out so you can practice these methods for yourself to see how they really do work. You can download the worksheet here, and please give yourself a good 10 - 15 minutes to fill it out. The power of your own written words is pretty incredible so take advantage and keep this close at hand when completed. Refer to it as often as you need!

If you have any methods that you employ that help you to get out of your funk and start believing in yourself, you must share! I'd love to hear what you do, so comment below and I'll let you know if that's something I'll begin to do as well! (Sharing is caring!) 

Mindfulness Can Breed Positivity!

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It's time to get mindful.

Like really, really mindful. I'm talking like put on your big girl pants and don't be afraid to take a real hard look inside your brain to see what's going in. Chances are it's a little bit messy in there because of all those fears, irrational thoughts, and anxieties that are rolling around in there... they are the epitome of messy, and the antidote to all that is get mindful. 

Just like closets, your brain holds so much junk that it's almost bursting at the seams with all that information and chatter. Endless chatter. I must think the same thoughts over and over and over so many times in a day it should literally drive me over the edge. And some days it does. 

Think about this... what do you focus on each day? Is it your finances, or your lackluster office job? Is it all about food and what you're going to eat to help get you out of a bad mood? A challenging relationship? Your full to-do list with not one thing checked off? Are you always running around like a chicken without a head, zipping from one place to the next, never having a moment to yourself? Are you annoyed at others for the current state of affairs in your life? 
 
Slow your roll and take stock.

That's all you have to do when starting out on a massive cleaning project. Take a look at what you're working with, and see how it's affecting/creating your life experiences. I've begun to do this because I'm a big, old, fat worry-wort and prone to anxiety, so I decided to try and figure out why I always feel overwhelmed, unfocused and lacking the energy to accomplish the things I want to do.

Ah, the age old question of WHY?! To be honest, I haven't an answer yet... but, on the flip side, I'm learning SO MUCH about myself. Like, I need to stop feeling like I'm not good enough (because no one has ever said to me, Hey Anne Marie, you really stink at being good enough!) Why am I saying it to myself?! Why do I feel the social pressure to be the perfect mom? Why can't I take it easy on myself?

Beware though, it's a bit of a mindf*ck when you start asking yourself questions about why you do and think certain things. You sometimes find there are no valid reasons. (And you've been wasting your time. And energy. For nothing!) That's actually a really cool side effect because it enables you to then free up that space for all the other good stuff, like taking care of yourself!

So this is why I'm asking you to start asking "why?". Why are you thinking about a certain thing, and how is that directly affecting how you encounter and interact with the people and circumstances around you? Get that notebook out (you know that one that's so cute you just had to have it! It was going to change the way you did things, it was going to help you to become more organized, thoughtful, and mindful. We all have that cute notebook so dust it off girl, it's time to start using it!), and jot down a few things that are trolling around in your brain. Start asking why, what supports that thought, and how can you change it to begin to help you feel empowered, instead of downright defeated. 

I bet you will be surprised at some of your answers.

Asking empowering questions are the key to changing and altering your conscious train of thought. Take control, start paying super close attention to where your thoughts take you, and turn them around if it's getting to be a little too dark in there. Empower yourself, love yourself, be kind, and smile. You are better than good enough and it's time you started to understand that!

I'd love to hear from you about what you discover! Leave a comment below and let's get the conversation started. We grow when we share and I would LOVE to grow my tribe with your help!

So answer me this: Ask yourself what do you love MOST about yourself. See what pops up. (i.e. Is it positive thoughts, or is it something more like, "Hmmmm... I don't know, I never thought of asking myself that, I don't have an immediate answer"?) 

3 Mindless Eating Habits You Can Stop Today!

Trust me, there are more than three, but I'm all about sizable chunks when it comes to processing/trying new things... and anything in three's is pretty doable so let's get to it lassy, weight loss isn't coming anytime soon unless we start getting busy!

1. Curb your nibbling!

A little tiny bite here, a small taste there, a small sweet treat because you deserve it... are all really bad ideas! Like really, really bad. I know it's not something you want to hear but you don't have to let it get your knickers in a wad. I'm nit-picking here because whatever you're doing, it ain't working sister. So I'm getting down to the nitty-gritty and I'm really pulling the rug out from underneath because I want you to make the small changes that are going to make the BIG changes!!!!

You mindlessly eat and it's a habit you don't even realize you have. (I do it too! And when I need to reign things in, this is where I begin. Why? Because it's simple.) All you have to do is... stop. Pay attention. Pay attention as if your kids are playing on the street. Be that vigilant. That aware. You can hear a car turn the corner three blocks away when your kids are playing in the street. You're up and already waving your hands for them to move aside, leering down the road watching the car come closer and closer. I want you to be THAT vigilant.

You know when you're looking for something to nibble on. You can see it coming a mile away. You're already thinking about it, sitting there in your cupboards, waiting to be snatched up. You're gonna totally going for it because it's little. It's harmless. It doesn't count. (Roaches are little too... but if you saw one of those bad boys you'd probably freak the eff out!) 

No matter how small, stop the mindless eating. If you're serious about losing weight, and I think you are, quit the snacking, plain and simple.

2. Don't ever wing it.

EVER. You need a plan and that plan will set you free (from your belly!) If you take a good, solid 15 minutes on whatever day works best for you, (I don't care if it's morning, noon or midnight!) create a solid meal plan. It doesn't have to be for the whole week, it can simply be for the next two days. Write out what you will eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner for the first day and then eat repurposed leftovers for the next day. Boom. Two days planned so you're never caught with a grumbling belly and no plan. Because that's when it's a free for all my friend. That's when the damage happens. Too many episodes like that and you're not feeling fab in your bathing suit. 'Nuff said. 

 Take the time to meal prep... it will actually save you calories!

Take the time to meal prep... it will actually save you calories!

3. Quit it with the grains.

Just stop. Don't believe the hype. You don't need a grain for dinner anymore. It's like we've turned into grain-bots and automatically make a grain each night to accompany our protein and veg. Why does dinner need to be a protein, a carb, and a grain?? Veggies are carbs! Aaaaaaaaannnd here's the kicker... a carb that is a veggie has more fiber than a grain. Why is that important to know? Because not nearly enough of us get enough fiber in our diets and if you want to lose weight, well then you best up your fiber intake my dear. Fiber up! For dinner, make yourself a slew of veggies, I'm talking leafy greens, roots, sweet, sour, colorful, you name it and you should eat it! Who got fat from eating veggies?! NO ONE! (It's all the other crap that got them fat!) 

Test it out.

Try to set aside a week and test out these three simple ways to stop mindless eating. It doesn't have to be hard, you just have to put the time in (see #2 for that!) If you begin with the small things, the bigger things become more doable and you will really begin to start seeing results. 

But take a week, commit, and notice the difference.

And please don't be offended by my tough love! It really is love, and it's all really worth experimenting with, I promise! If after a week you don't feel like it worked for you, then try something new. Share with me what's working and what's not. I guarantee we can come up with a plan (with a side of tough love) that can work for you ;)

Leave a comment below, I'd love to hear if you've noticed any mindless habits that you do and if you have been successful in turning them around.

Meditation for Temper Tantrums

 I meditate so that my mind cannot complicate my life ~ Sri Chimnoy (BINGO! This guy nailed it!)

I KNOW you've all had a morning like the one I've had. I'm not special, I know that. I'm just like every other mom out there who, at certain times, actually tip-toes around their children so as to not set off that completely irrational, totally out of left field, Defcon-5, temper tantrum.

I swear, the more you avoid it, fear it and tip-toe around it, the more they sense it and immediately explooooooooood into alien beings. They become a whirlwind of legs and hands flailing all over in rapid motion. It's a sight to behold. 

Did I really give birth to an alien? Who in their right mind would sign up for this? No one told me that children could turn into something out of the Exorcist and that some (most) of my days would start off with me standing in a pool of my child's tears! (Completly irrational ones to boot.)

Except for this morning, the tears were all mine. Huge, fat, snotty tears.

And here I am, reeling from the latest mega temper tantrum, trying to figure out how I can survive motherhood. (Seriously, for unsuspecting mom's to be, we really should rethink the phrase 'Terrible Two's' and replace it with something totally more accurate, like "Armageddon Two's, Three's, Four's and beyond!" If you can survive it and come out on the other side as one, mentally capable, socially functioning, happy human being, then baby, you're gonna be A-OK!)

If your mornings sound in any way shape or form like mine, then God bless sister, I'm happy you're here! And if I may impart some wisdom, I've been experimenting and I may be able to help.

All this mediation and mindfulness is not for nothin'!

Pardon my French, but this sh*t works! If you're not on the meditation bandwagon yet, then you need to pony up my friend because this literally could save your sanity. (And tears. Lots and lots of tears!) I've become addicted to it and I swear, if you give it the good old college try, really tune in to what's going on inside your head (and outside - because there is a big old world out there - way bigger than the one we usually reside in), you will get space. And space is essential. We all covet our personal space and when we feel encroachment coming on, our 2 million-year-old brain is thinking Can I fight this? Can I outrun this? Or should I freeze right here and hope they don't see me anymore?! 

Before your caveman brain can enter into the equation, meditation allows for that space before your reaction hits the ground running and there's no turning back! Given space, one can actually react calmly, rationally, and in a totally acceptable adult manner. It's astounding!

The benefits of meditation far outweigh any sideways glances you might get at your next playdate, or PTA meeting when chatting up other moms. (This is actually a great way to weed out any Negative Nellies out there - keep them and their half empty glass at arms length.) And the way to incorporate it into your day is simple. Let me show you the way!

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  1. Find a little spot. It doesn't have to be big, it can be super small, small enough to fit you and ONLY you! It's a kid-free, hubby-free, pet-free zone. This spot is somewhere where you can be alone, and space out. 
     
  2.  Once you find a little nook, sit down. I use a little pillow as a prop to help open up my hips if I'm sitting cross-legged on the floor (criss-cross applesauce!) Hands are on my knees, palms face up and I'm as upright as I comfortably can be. 
     
  3. Close your eyes and breathe. I usually begin with the 4-7-8 breath, very common and very helpful to relax into your seat. I do 4 breathing rounds of that and then do regular, conscious breathing.
     
  4. Now this step may be weird but it totally helps put things into perspective for me, making sure I feel super insignificant - but in a good way!

    Once you're pretty relaxed (and beginning to get all into your to-do list - it will happen, just politely tell yourself to quit it), begin to envision that you're up in space - no space costume required or big astronaut helmet. You're happily sitting up in space in your comfy yoga pants and you're looking down on earth. There, rolling around before you is all of North America, South America, Canada, Alaska, Hawaii, even a few parts of Europe, your view is expansive and wide.

    Then think about all that living that is going on at that moment in all those far away places. There is TONS of life going on, people coming and going, shopping, eating, sleeping, working, endlessly moving.

    SIt with that for a little bit. 

    Next, try to find where you are in all of that. Notice how much you have to zoom in to even find your state, then your city, then your neighborhood, then your house, and then you in the house. That's a long journey! Sit with that.

How many temper tantrums did you pass on your way to zooming in? Probably a million! 

This whole visualization (done while performing some good belly breaths) can take you as little as 7 minutes, and it's a game-changer, I swear! And this is just one small simple way to experience it. Other times I work on cultivating massive amounts of self-love since I lack it. Or I work on creating laser-focus on what I want to see in my life.

When I want to feel less fear, I head to the floor. I want to feel as though I'm above it all and working at a higher frequency, I head to the floor. It's not an ego thing, it's actually the opposite. By sitting and breathing, I'm kicking the ego to the curb for those moments. 

Think of it literally as a grounding experience and a way for you to actively and consciously elevate your current state of mind, because the truth is, if you can elevate your mind, which in turn elevates your emotions, your perceptions, and your reactions, then you've hit rockstar status and ain't no temper tantrum going bring you down! In fact, you can waltz right through it without even realizing it's going on. Spiritual sanity! 

So bring on the Armageddon Two's (and three's, four's, five's and six's!) 

Now I'd love to hear from you and if this is a practice you already use, or if it's a new thing and you're not really sure if it will work for you? What's holding you back from making it a practice? Comment in the section below, I would love to hear from you!

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Every now and then it gets me. The funk. The self-sabotaging. The completely wrong way to go about my day. 

Some days I have no answer for why I feel so blah, or why can't I get it together, or why I just lost my sh*t with my kids/spouse/co-worker/unsuspecting victim who happened to be in my vicinity. It just happens. And I feel cruddy. And what sucks, even more, is that it's easier to remain in this funkified state rather than challenging it or attempting to do the work that needs to be done in order to get out of it. (Sounding familiar??)

We all crash into our funks sooner or later and when those moments arise, we have a choice to make. We can either willingly wallow in it and all its messiness, or we can take a deep breath, put on our big girls pants and make the decision to go from funkified to glorified. (The latter being the more annoying yet proper, big girl approach even though sometimes all you really, really, really want to do is be mad at the world, and the people, and the circumstances! I feel you. But that's really a lot of wasted energy - and we all know it is. Wah!!!!)

Once you've given yourself permission to say Ok, this sucks, I'm in a funk and I hate everyone! you can begin to turn it around. There are a few simple things you can do to help tackle the problem, get yourself motivated, and begin to make the move from funk, to motivated and gettin' sh*t done! 

First, it would help if you didn't:

Take on the whole kit and kaboodle. Whether it's losing 30 pounds, deciding on what you want to do with your life, or how you go about fixing a relationship gone haywire, the tactics are the same. You need to GET CLEAR on your goals. Like super-duper, crystaly-clear on what you want to accomplish without taking on everything at once. Us girls tend to feel like we need to tackle everything head-on, without taking a moment to breathe, think or react. It's simply go, go, go all the time, and at the end of the day, we're 1/2 bottle in, Instagramming, texting, ignoring the immediate world around us because we've got nothing left at that point. We're spent and bitter! And then we get up the next day and hit "repeat".

That's why we need to get clear.

Grab a pen and just start dishing girl. Write it all down, each and every last thing you want to accomplish, or how you would like to feel. Emotions run our lives, so it's best to get clear on them! It can be for today, for next week, a year from now, five years from now... just write it all out.

And then go back. Read it. Study it. Get to know it. Dance with it for a little bit. Get comfy and cozy in it. And then start picking at it. In fact, pick three accomplishments (or emotions) for starters. Just three because it's time to prioritize. From those three, go down to two. Again, dance with them for a little, try them on, see how they feel, how they look. Once you've done that, I want you to then pick one. JUST ONE.

Clarity alleviates anxiety and fear.

It creates laser-focus. If you're laser-focused on your goals and you know the first, simple step that you have to take, it's so much easier than wading into the murky waters of your sub-conscious where all sorts of uncertainty, misguided beliefs, and general ickiness resides. 

Decide what is it you're looking to accomplish, or how you want to feel (ie, loved, confident, successful). Limit your to-do list to one thing and let that become your focus. 

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Next, you're going to have to:

Take action as soon as it's humanly possible. There is NO WAY sitting down, contemplating, rehashing, shaming, excuse-making will help you AT ALL at this point. The only thing you can do once you decide to do something is to take action. I know I said clarity alleviates anxiety and fear, and while it does, action alleviates anxiety and fear even more! 

You may fear the first step but once you take that leap, your fears stay behind. They have no faith, they have no wings, and they have no use for you when you decide to abandon them. So figure out your first actionable step and for the love of bunnies and rainbows, take that first step. Just do it. Don't even give yourself time to talk yourself out of it. Go, jump, fly!

And if you fall flat on your face...

Don't get discouraged. Simply change the story you're telling yourself in your head. Just change it. You're not pathetic, you're not destined to be where you are, you're not a loser who can't follow through with anything... whatever the conversation you're having, whatever the disappointment may be, the way it's making you feel isn't helping.

Change your language.

And again, start small and simple. Go from I don't have the willpower to keep this up to something more helpful like, This is a simple case of mind over matter, and I will not let my own thoughts be a stumbling block for me!

When you practice this over and over again, I promise it will get easier to follow and you'll notice you're in less and less of a funk.

I've been practicing these tactics throughout the past year as our family transitioned through a move, (which left me ignoring my business and focusing all my time and energy on our kids—making sure they felt safe, comfortable and happy in their new surroundings, not to mention dealing with my own moving issues!), and they have helped me tremendously. I decided to get clear on my goals and change the stories I tell myself, which has allowed the energy around me to shift in all sorts of positive ways.

Remember to keep your goal at the forefront. That means writing it down so you can see it often. We assume we won't forget and the inspiration and motivation we feel at the goal-setting moment won't diminish or fade because it feels so freaking good to be so centered and focused. But we all know, it fades, it diminishes, and it sometimes simply crashes and burns all on its own like a little shooting star. So sad. So write it down and look at it every day. Every. Freaking. Day. Got it? Good.

My dear, there is nothing you can't accomplish with that beautiful mind of yours! 

Now I'd love to hear from you! What's your personal way of dealing with the self-sabotaging funk? Do you find yourself wallowing in it for days? Or are you able to turn things around quickly? I'd love to hear your tactics!

3 Mind Set Changes You Can Make Today When It Comes to Exercise

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Fill it to the brim!

There is so much more that goes into exercise than simply pulling on a pair of stretchy pants, lacing up your shoes and tying back your hair. Lord knows there is soooooo much more! There is the internal struggle, the 'should I stay or should I go' conversation, the good intentions only to ever so easily waver at the first sign of trouble...

What? I don't have any clean socks? I can't go out with dirty socks, that's gross. Let me do a quick load and theeeeeen I'll head out. 

I'm hungry. Do I have to wait at least 30 minutes before exercising after eating? Or is that only with swimming? Well either way I don't want to be all crampy and uncomfortable. I'll eat now and try going later. 

Ugh, I really need a pedi. It's been weeks and I only have time for one or the other... ugh, I can't stand looking at my toes in the shower, pedi it is!

You feel me right? 

We can pretty much justify any reason whatsoever to avoid the pain of actually having to muster up the mental fortitude to work out. It's mental warfare. It's so easy to just avoid it altogether. And many of us do just that. Avoid. Ignore. Put off for another day. 

How do we stop the cycle??

Well, it's actually not as difficult, or mind-bending as you would think! In fact, it's as simple as changing the conversation you have with yourself and implementing a few strategies that will have you saying YES, it's time for my workout, and NO to anything else!

1. Speak to your sensible self and pinpoint, with clarity what you get from exercising, and understand your "why". Why do you do it? Why do you feel the need? Why do you think it's good for you? Because it's not all for naught. Nuh-uh. The release of feel-good hormones is reasoning enough for me to lace up and actually get my butt out the door. I know for sure I'm a much nicer person after working out. When I'm feeling overwhelmed, or a little depressed, or I'm struggling in some facet of my life, I make sure to get moving that day, (most especially on days like that!), because it gets me back to neutral. Understand your why and make sure it fills a need. 

2. Stop comparing yourself to others. Talk about taking the wind right out of your sails. Do you really think it's effective, or empowering to put yourself up against some random skinny chick you happen to come across on Instagram or Facebook or wherever you hang out and say to yourself, "Man, I wish I could be more like her. I'd love to have her body." And you know you're saying that in your fingernails against a chalkboard kind of voice right?! You're not filled with joy and enthusiasm when you're thinking or saying that. That voice reeks of disdain and disappointment in yourself and makes you feel plain old lousy. Not the inspiration you need.

Leave the comparing where it belongs... in the trash. And then get your big girl pants on. Talk to yourself like you love yourself. Fill your mind with positivity. Stop comparing. When you feel yourself starting to do it, replace it with a simple, "I love myself" (even if it makes you cringe at first. Do it enough and it will get easier, I promise!)

3. Create your vision and set your action plan into motion. Vision boards are a great source of inspiration. They take what you're thinking, all that stuff that's firing away at lightspeed in your brain, and lay it all out before you so you can actually make sense of what you want and what you will achieve. People do this all the time when they want to move or change careers or fall in love. Why not do it then to achieve the health and wellness you want and deserve? You want a flat tummy, firm arms, a bootylicious bum? Then see it. Imagine yourself with it. How does it make you feel? Really feel it. Like really, really feel it. And then create the action plan to achieve it. That's where the change comes... setting into motion the action. Find a challenging ab routine to start with. Do a push up challenge. Commit to 50 squats a day. Give yourself a deadline, plan it out, and get a friend to join you. This is how you create success!

If you implement these three mindset changes today and begin to take massive action toward achieving your goal, I'm gonna tell you right now you'll be met with such motivation that working out will never be a dull and burdensome task again.  

And if you do try these three changes, let me know! I always love to hear, listen and learn from you so leave a comment below. The more I know about you, the more I can help!